Losing My Religion

       I really don't know where to start. The title itself is controversial as the writer of it. Whenever I accept the lamb of God and saying my amens, I always question myself if I'm truly deserving of it or what the little round thing really signify. What's it got to do with me?

       I was born and raised a catholic. Through the years growing up I've been exposed to the ways of catholicism. My family itself, I can't consider as very religious but we are the type who observe Sunday masses, prays the rosary and have religious relics at home. We are not the type who really devote their time tending the church and church matters and being too religious as one wants to believe. But as I was growing up, I began to wonder what it all means and if all that I hear rings true. As what you've observed in my entries, I'm quite an outspoken, critical, radical and opinionated person. So I began looking closely at what my religion really meant to me. As a free thinker, I began to question some of my religious ways. I started questioning my faith in this religion I grew up believing. Everything fast tracked when I entered college and enrolled in Philosophy 1. Having an atheist for an instructor somehow opened my eyes more to the different ideas outside my religious zone. This instructor of mine loved essays. Loves torturing us with very early essays that were mind boggling and too draining especially at 7 in the morning. Not that I hate essays. I live for these stuff. Yes, my class starts at 7 a.m., so it is expected somehow that having just woken up and still half asleep. My brain is still on sleep mode and we always commenced our class with a hefty essay. What's up with that? So coming late for class won't cut it big time. The silly thing in addition to this is that he calls on students to read their work in front of the class. Some added pressure there. Lol! And yours truly was almost always have been called front and center. One time I even had to do an impromptu argument because I have only been able to  write a total of three and a half sentences to be exact. Cool, right? But totally frightening and unnerving. Sir Odchimar is a man fond of arguments. He would always challenge your opinions making you think further and deeper. So to make things more interesting and to be able to bag a prized Uno, I challenged myself to do good and to explore the other side. When given a question especially regarding religion, I often strayed away from the expected answer and chose the other way. Most often going against what I normally think. That helped me look deeper into things trying to dispute everything I thought was real and true. I'm critical and I love to rationalize. I always take both sides into consideration and rationalize my way to a conclusive idea. At one point my teacher, during one of  the many consultations, asked me if  I was indeed verging on becoming an atheist. I said no. Told him that I just want to challenge myself, learn more and understand better. These, and I have to admit the influence of a teacher led me to self discovery and eventually to my real self. I have to admit that the catholic faith does have some major loopholes. And the people behind it more controversial than holy. These people that are supposed to guide us in doing the right thing, not forcing us to conform just to get what they want. Sometimes usurping our freedom to choose for ourselves. RH Bill and the divorce laws, same sex marriage and the likes are just some of the controversial topics that they are pouring themselves into. And I thought they are just supposed to be there to guide us to do the right thing. Let me rephrase that, to do what we think is the right thing for us not because they said so. They are not living our lives to know better than ourselves what is best for us. They are like self professed dictators dressed in holy garb. Using their influence and even using homilies to their gain. Instead of guiding us to make the right choices to suit us. They try to manipulate us into submitting ourselves into their rule. They become too meddlesome that sometimes they go where they aren't wanted. They think they have a rule on everything, even politics. Why don't they just leave that to those people who call themselves public servants.  Sometimes because people rely on them so much for their faith and salvation, they take advantage of that for their gain. Considering not the fact that each one of us as individuals have our own opinions and sides on different matters. We have our own insights and convictions in life. No offense to the church and it's people, it's okay to live a selfless life but one way or the other we have to consider our personal interests as well.
       This is one of the reasons why I lost my trust in the church. Mainly because of the people behind it. I'm not saying all of them but some. The people we fondly call the 'banal na aso, santong kabayo'. Let me expound on that. Is it not the teaching of the catholic faith that we should observe all the religious factions they have introduced to us. Masses, prayer rallies, and the likes. To do rosaries, and observe the holy sacraments of the church. All these are ways to our salvation, or so they say. So does it mean that it makes me a less good catholic and more likely not to be saved if I miss masses even if I'm the nicest person ever? And does that mean a really bad person can redeem himself just by attending mass and foregoing being good? Because to tell you frankly I do see people doing just that, sacred asses and divine evils. With all that has been said, it's a given that I still thank the catholic faith for instilling in me some of the core values I have now. I still treat catholicism as the basic foundation of my faith. But upon my self realization I actually became aware that religion is just religion. Faith is somehow deeper and the driving force behind any religion. So, in a way for me, you don't really have to belong to any religion as long as you believe in what you think is right then you are good to go. Different religions, sects and faiths, are just labels created to woo in divisions and more differences. Giving people further reasons to create tensions and more problems. So whatever it is you belong to, may it be pagan, muslim, catholic, wiccan, or christian, we do have one goal in life. That is to be good and give respect to others and to a higher cause. I once said that different religions are one and the same only spoken in different languages. This for me is very true. They all stand for what is good and right, well maybe not all their teachings. That would be greatly reliant on us what to believe and what not to. This is the ultimate reason why I started writing this essay in the first place. All these different faiths have something good to teach us, it may only vary in the way they teach it or its representations in life. But they speak the same virtuous thoughts. Like, take for example, karma which is quite popular in the hindu teachings. It is simulated in catholicism as the famous teaching which goes, 'do unto others, what you want others to do unto you'. And in a more simple passage, 'you reap what you sow'. Through the witches' view, it is getting back three or ten folds whatever it is you send out, something like that. All these from different religions but meaning the same thing. They may differ in the way they were put to words but their context and thought are the same. Different religions may differ from one another but their goal is only one thing, to guide us to the right path of goodness. They may have ways which can be unfamiliar and sometimes unconventional thus being unacceptable for the others of a different religion. Even contradictory to some. You can't hide the fact that they have more similarities than differences if we look at them closely. Like individuals, no two can be too alike. We have our own stands on things animate or inanimate. Different beliefs and experiences that make us who we are which is unique from the others. These factors can greatly affect our own opinions of religion and of life itself. The fact that we were dealt with intelligence and the power of reasoning gives us the advantage to make choices that would best suit us. And the conviction to actually question things that we deem incorrect. I do have now the freedom to be selective and critical about things that are thrust upon me. Freedom to choose what to believe and what to deduce as false. Given that I do applaud people who think the same but that doesn't give us the right to be critical of other people. We may not see eye to eye on certain matters but that doesn't mean we have to disprove of them. If they wish to believe it, then let them. Not unless they force it on you that you can be defensive about it. As long as there is harmony between people  whatever religion they belong to, there is no need to argue and compare. Their faith lies there, the same as yours laying somewhere else, let them cherish it. I myself have friends belonging to different sects and I'm open to listening and learning from them. Listening from people who have different views can be fun and highly educational. You get to see and understand where they are coming from. You get to know that their religion is no different than yours. Well maybe for some aspects, yes. The thing is you learn and for me, the true religion is the culmination of all the religions there is. We all do worship a God in a way. He or She may have different names, may come in different forms, or may be represented by the sun or nature itself. But doesn't it occur to you that maybe, just maybe He,She, It is one and the same only in different forms depending on the perception of people and their beliefs? Let's ask ourselves that.
       Faith is the driving force of a religion. If people don't believe in it then there is no established religion there. Faith serves a higher cause. It's the belief in something that can guide, help or enlighten you. It's a source of strength and comfort. We hold on to religion because we need something to base our faiths on. I have to admit that catholicism is my base religion and it did teach me a lot of good things. The thing is I don't want to be limited to only that. I'm willing to learn and be enlightened. Nowadays, I still hear mass, I still pray and I still see God as my guiding light. Mary, Jesus, together with all the saints, I see as mere representations of the miracles and goodness of God. It's some of the teachings  that I'm after and the total belief that miracles and good things do happen around us. Things we can't explain. Things that are beyond us. I still thank them  for everything, blessing and trials alike.Faith is about all of these and not the fancy church or the priests and nuns about. So now, when I hear mass, I look past those things and just savor the meaning of the words I'm hearing. All in all, I just pray, say my thanks, listen and learn. For my faith lies on something higher than the people who only speak rubbish just to make a delusional point. Heck, I could do a better job than them.
       Religion is just a sentiment that we have to base our faiths on. But just having one doesn't really justify it.  People now have become too complacent when it came to religion. It's like a go with the flow thing. Some just hear mass during special holidays like Christmas and some other special occasions such as birthdays and the likes. Many of them don't even know what it means to partake in each of these masses and others just plain don't care at all. They just do it because others do. And it ain't right also to mislead our kids into hearing masses just because they can get their wishes to come true. Why not just tell them the significance of attending masses. Doing the former would just give them the wrong impression and reasons for believing in religion. It bugs me when I see people religiously attending masses but then do the wrong things once outside the church. What's the point of all the deed? Is it all just for show? I always tell those close to me that it doesn't really matter how many times you pray or hear mass or confess or subject ourselves to the lamb of God, as long as we do the right things and not commit sins and trespasses against others. It's not a question of how religious we are but how well we behave ourselves and how deep our faith is. Religion is treated like a label now. It only narrows things down. Being in one doesn't make you better or anything less than those belonging in another. No religion should deem itself as superior or more correct than others.We all have our own opinions and takes on different stuff. We believe in different things and want to follow a certain path in accordance to what we think is right. We all have that freedom, fair and square. So instead of disputing others for thinking differently we can try to listen and understand where they are coming from. Every action that we do is subject to reason. No religion should  be in the way for others to live, believe and have faith in something they find more enriching and fulfilling. Respect begets respect. It is what all these religions in a sense teach us. There is no contest there.
       Even in  our own chosen religion we tend to find some inconsistencies that drove me to write this. But as I now profess, who said that we should believe everything they say and follow everything to a tee. It's just being selective and choosy. There is a way to believe in what it stands for and not the other things or what I fondly refer to as sugar coatings. I'm right in saying that I'm critical about some religious beliefs or ways. Now, I have given myself an option to be coaxed and coerced into believing it or just be adamant about it.  No need to argue or dispute anybody. If you don't want to believe it then don't. Leave them be. We are all free to believe or have faith in the things that we want to. 'Walang basagan ng trip', Ika nga. If they think they're on the right path in following it, then there's nothing wrong with that. If it fits, it works. People like me tend to be more open minded that we look for answers or we look for things that we don't find in our current circumstances. Being opinionated doesn't help in just casting a blind eye about things. We tend to look deeper. That made me realize that, well my religion is no different from yours. We may differ in our ways but we are one in thought. Certain idealisms are just the same just wrapped in so many different ways. So I thought to myself, that religion is just a label or some kind of boundary to create division amongst us. Differences that later on create conflicts and chaos. Differences that put ourselves at war with ourselves and other people. We so love labels and religions are no different. It fuels our drive to compare and alleviate one from the other. A just cause for us to judge others and feed our own ego for being better than the rest. So why be confined in one when you can just believe in one thing. So  whatever religion or lack of it should matter as long as we have faith in something. In my case, I'm still in good terms with catholicism. It's just that I gave myself the privilege to a broader perspective of life and not be confined in a religion which doesn't totally suit me in a way. Not confined in one religion but a set of beliefs that works for me. It's like saving myself from the confusion I get from some of the teachings I sometimes find ridiculous and far fetched. This pushes me to look beyond and dig deeper into the main idea, minus the rubbish, which is mainly to do the right thing accordingly. Each of these religions have something to teach us. And with our capacity as free thinkers we can now be judgmental, if I may say choosy, in what to believe in and what not. You may think I'm so out there , maybe I am. The good thing here is I'm at peace with myself. I have a different sort of faith which is not deliberate, rehearsed or dictated. I'm free. I did in a manner of speaking lose my religion but did gain a new faith. Faith in God and faith  in myself to always do the right thing. Then my life goes on....             
        

              

Anguish

my heart stops
my eyes stream sour 
the thought of loneliness 
stings at the back of my mind
bitter bile rising
emotions brimming
nerves tumbling, throbbing
blasting my head with worries
thumping myself
hurting, hurting

looking for a way out
finding nada
darkness looming
closed doors, barricaded windows
the end in my midst
like death lurking
misty, murky
demise slowly creeping
nowhere to go but deep
gasping, drowning

ready to give up
to succumb to this sickness
pain courses my veins
like venom, like poison
slowly killing me
scared and spiteful
everything suddenly pitch black
can see light no more
numb, fleeting
slight tremor, then silence

no more, no more.   
   

LISA*

Listen to the wind as it whispers your name, 
Lovely as it is, it carries a spell.
Lingering in my mind,
Like a mystery in the midst.

In the silence of the night,
It's you I remember.
In the darkest of the hour,
It's you who keeps me struggling.

Silly, you may think of me.
Sincere that I really am.
Stricken by your lovely eyes,
Someday I wish you'll be mine.

Aphrodite in the flesh you are,
A perfect epitome of the girl I dreamt of.
An angel sent from heaven above,
A person who sheds light in my life.      




*This was also written during the same time as Butterfly. As you can see the wordings and phrases are somehow relative to one another.

Butterfly*

Shall I compare you to thee a butterfly.
The epitome of beauty and grace,
Splendid and colorful you seem be,
Serene and poignant how I describe thee.
Enticing me once you flutter your wings,
Flattering my sight with endless beauty,
Lovely is thee you carry a spell,
Carries me through my worries and despair,
You art thou gift sent from heaven above,
The light that shines through the darkest of times.
You shed happiness wherever you go,
Infectious that's what I see it to be.
Perfect you may not be for all to see,
You're perfect in every aspect for me.





*I wrote this a long time ago, 2004 if I'm not mistaken, for a cousin.

What I Really think of Noynoying

       And the Presidency goes to... none other than Noynoy Aquino. It's been more than two years now since he won the slot for president and still hasn't won my heart. To tell you frankly, I never really liked him at all. From all the the presidentiables back then he was my least favorite to think I never fancied Erap, being ineffective and corrupt during his short reign as our leader. But still I would've voted for him over Noynoy. Not that I hate him or anything but he just gets into my nerves and he's just weak. That without the pristine memories of his dad and mom, who were great heroes of our time and his super famous sister Kris, I don't think he would even matter. He's so lack luster he would easily fade in any back draft there is. I've always said that he has yet to develop a supremely sturdy backbone. Which he should've inherited from his parents. During his campaign he fed on the popularity of his kin to get ahead. The theme of his campaign ads were always about mom and dad. So all I can say is he played his cards well. Actually the looming death and eventually her demise had catapulted him to the limelight earning him a spot to the presidency. Sad to say but he took advantage of the country's loss for his political gain. While the country grieves, he together with some influential people brought to motion his plans to run.

       I honestly believe that he didn't deserve to win. He once said he had no immediate ambitions to run for the two highest political post in our country which I find full of crap. I honestly thought he was considering the senate. But no he has proven himself to be over ambitious. Like a hungry vulture just waiting for the right opportunity to go for the kill. He was then tapped to run along side Roxas as his VP and when Cory died he swiftly emerged as the lead of the LP show. Not that Roxas had the fighting chance for a clean sweep. Their party thought Roxas was not as competitive as the other Presidentiables and most likely could not deliver them victory. So when the oppotunity presented itself, by the death of the 'mother of democracy', they grabbed it by the neck and proposed to exploit and use it to their advantage. They cooked up a new plot  and had Noynoy run for president. The death of Cory and the heroism of Ninoy as the main ingredient. Our sense of loss was exploited to spark emotions and capture the interest of the public, thus creating a sense of vulnerability where people can relate more, influencing people to side with them and vote for the son of two magnanimous heroes. Bottomline, they used our grief to gain them sympathy votes. All of these coupled with the people's thirst for change and deliverance from our current government had pushed people to vote for him without even considering that he's a far cry from who his parents are. I've come to know him as 'tulo-laway', parang autistic, and vindictive president. The president who didn't do anything to help and intervene in the hostage drama that cost so many lives. Not only that but it tarnished the reputation of our country.  What bothers me most were the rumors that while all of these was happening , he was in his room playing video games, so I've heard. How chivalrous can you get? The person whose only aim is to make people pay for their trespasses. On top of his list is CGMA and her allies. His priorities are so muddied  with vendetta that he has lost sight of the more important problems and concerns our country is facing. Vengeance is not ours, it's God's.             

       The second on his list would have to be his being linked to beautiful women in showbiz and fashion. I have to applaud Shalani for leaving him. She deserved better and she got that. For that I'm really happy for her. Going back to Noynoy, as we all know, he had been dubbed Pnoy (which is short for President Noynoy). I was aghast by it. He doesn't deserve the accolade of the name which is quite similar to what we fondly call ourselves (pinoy). He only deserves what a lot of Pinoys started calling him which is Noynoying. That I certainly can approve. SONAs given by him don't really interest me that much. It's just a well concocted speech full of promises, false hopes, and  a flare of vindictive edge. He proposes that more taxes can make everything okay. How lame is that. My comment to that is no amount of tax collection can ever save us from the grasps of corruption. Corruption is the root of all evil and the added tax would only cause the underprivileged more pains. And his overall look doesn't help him at all. It doesn't say president at all. Looking dignified isn't his forte. His lack of bravado and confidence greatly affects his bearing and carriage so the air of authority is lost. Making him look weak and inadequate. Maybe constantly asking himself , 'what am I doing here?', with a big question mark on his forehead. My prescription: Grow and develop a sturdy backbone to last him the rest of his term. Now basking in the glory he didn't in the slightest deserved, he literally is responsible of our country among others.
       It's actually a dreadful and relentful idea to rely on the a person who doesn't really have any idea what he's doing for the most part and who is highly pliable and dependent on others to make decisions for him. This thing I assure you, he's never going to win a reelection or any other post whatsoever if he chooses to run yet again. People have learned so much by the few years that he's in the seat of power. They know better now than to vote for an inferior boy with a famous kin.
       With all that had been said. I still, along with others, am willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. After all, people do change as my friend so frequently implies. All he has to do is prove me wrong and prove himself worthy of the trust bestowed unto him by the people. There is still time to do something of his current situation and show us that he in fact deserves to be where he is now. More power Noynoying...     

Social Networkings

      Facebook, Twitter, BBM, PR, Tagged, these are just some of the more famous social networks there are at the moment and there are still more than you can count with your fingers, hands and feet, out there. Before we only had a few of them including Friendster, which we all know had already been reformatted and somehow faced out. Now everybody who's anybody and even the nobody's in our society have if not one, several accounts in different social networks there is. Having one has become a trend, a norm and clearly a part of our lives. So if somebody tells you they don't have one, that person is more likely lying to your face.

      There are all sorts of social networks out there. You name it, it's there. Sites for girls, boys, gays, bisexuals, Filipinas looking for their free ticket to the land of milk and honey, for cyber sex and all sorts of stuff. Sites to suit your needs and specific preferences. Now our society has been run by these social networks. Messaging made easy and correspondence made interesting and fast. Our lives now are simply reliant on the internet and our world revolves around our phones and computers. We are always on the lookout for WiFi hot zones for free access to check on updates and new trending topics.

      What is it about social networks that we just can't get enough of it? People now have the knack for posting everything; from what they ate, to what they just did, to what they're feeling and thinking at the moment and have pictures to go with them. Even their hopes, dreams and frustrations and downsides in life get their fair share in the limelight. The more tragic the experience, the more likes and comments you get. Happy moments do get to be in the limelight as well. Achievements, blessings, new found friendships, unforgettable memories, are just some of those you get to see from time to time on your wall. How true, one would  just have to guess. For some it's their time to shine. To let it be known what they had become and who they are now. Their chance to boast what they have and what they can afford to do. It becomes an avenue for some to somehow show others how successful they are and how far they've gone in life. Which isn't so cool if you  look at it especially if you find yourself at the receiving end of the 'my horse is bigger than your horse', tug of war. I do despise people who boast just about anything. Even the sordid stuff they still have the nerve to post just so to garner notice even for the wrong reasons. Take note, it doesn't mean that when people give you likes is that they're really happy for you. Some are just there to mock you and kind of tell  you what a pig head you are. Is there really a need to tell people anything current in your life that you yourself don't even know would interest them?
       For some, it becomes an outlet for pent up emotions and functions as their avenue for self expression. Some take to art, some take it out on writing. Others are too vocal even form their own good. We do have our own ways in coping with life and all the stress it brings. Social networks have many uses to us like stress reliever, as a hobby, for self expression and exploration, faster more in-depth communication, finding old friends and meeting new ones. But let's not forget the main, most crucial reason why people engage in social networks. To find love or for some, the fast food version of love which is a one night stand. People who don't go out so much or just find it so hard to find the perfect person do resort to social networks for help. Dating sites and cyber dens are what you're looking for when you're in it to find love or in it for sex. People like myself who don't go out so much and don't party that hard or are just so busy to go out and do the manual labor of dating find it so hard to meet people that would suit us or would find time to appreciate us or better, love us.
       Social networks have provided us with avenues to meet people without actually going out or interacting with them in person first. Thus, giving us a chance to somehow test the waters and screen possible mates even before going out on a first date. Both parties are given the chance to gauge the other, assess the situation and then weigh for compatibility. Social networks also have given us the power to have choices. The chance to meet people we don't travel the same circles with. Casting us a wider net for the ability to reel in more options for potential partners. And let's face it that it's a lot easier to interact with others on the net. Hell, you can converse with socialites and famous people without being starstruck or down right nervous. You could follow them, chat with them and tweet them relentlessly for as often as you want. The awkwardness that happens when you're face to face with them vanishes and with the constant contact, you develop a sense of rapport and familiarity that would erase future qualms, hesitation, insecurities, and  anxieties when you finally meet.
       For some, it aids them in becoming who they've longed for to be. Because they can now pretend and just be whoever they want to be. Lies, lies, and more lies. People do go at it at great lengths. They fabricate, create alter egos, perfect beings just to ensnare others to fall for them. Even attaching photos apparently not theirs. Insecurities can actually push people to do such things. Which on the long run wouldn't help them at all but just dig deeper the hurt that would come with the realization of the lie. Key is to be yourself  at all times and that pretentions would just end up being your own foes in the late. Always bear in mind that someone somewhere would be interested in what you have to offer. The less lies you conjure, the less the other person would find in his heart to forgive. Secondly, is to never expect a lot. Lowering ones expectations wouldn't hurt, it would be your best weapon for acceptance. For those whose aims are to only look for one night stands, don't believe all the pictures you see or the things that are said. It would be wise to live by this code, 'to see is to believe', because most of them maybe false. Who in their right mind would post a bad picture that reveals their true self. Makes perfect sense, right? Nowadays with the advent of photoshop and air brushing, everything is possible. If you get lucky like some of us do, well good for them. But not all people get their happy endings thru the net. And with the new age coming, one can't be too careful with their dealings on the net. Current news would tell you of the dangers in immersing oneself  with the net. Dangers, brought about by social networks you wouldn't even think would bring you harm. News of murder, robbery, rape, and swindling tops the bill.  Who would ever think that these things might stem from our favorite social dens. Extra care and precaution should be taken especially when meeting people from the net. Not to scare you or anything but with all that is happening now, one can't be too sure. Better yet consider this as a warning or a dose of awareness, that even before you click on anything, be cautious and think of the possibilities of where it might lead. Because a single click can spawn a deadly net around you. Crimes are not the only ones that arise from this. Widespread HIV/AIDS infliction is also one of those news you just can't ignore. People you meet on the net especially sexually active ones can pose a danger to you since they don't really have big flashcards posted on their foreheads saying aids free. So thing is, you wouldn't really know not until it's all too late. People like them whose only purpose is to find  a one time release can cause you a lifetime of pain or even the end of it. So beware what you get yourself into and always think twice before saying yes to anybody no matter how hot or sexy they maybe. And it doesn't hurt if you stay protected if you really just can't help yourself from saying yes. But still, abstinence is the best way to go about it.
       Social networks have, yes been a part of our lives in general. Apart from the fact that it has helped us to stay connected and updated with our loved ones, even more than we ought to want. It gives us a chance to explore and learn new things by just simply entering our email addresses and pass codes. Simply by clicking a few keys could open a whole new world  in front of us. It's a cure for the socially oppressed and the introverted. That even them can now find friends who could help or maybe share the some company having been in same situations or having the same say about life and everything around them. A chance to boast and to mock others. To meet our future and savor our pasts. To rekindle moments and start anew. But for everything that we do or post or tweet, there is the need to own up and be responsible for whatever  it is we do social networking for. And it wouldn't hurt if we take every necessary precaution and special care in our dealings with the net. Yes, it can be advantageous to us but it can also bring us harm and confusion if we lose focus. So be yourself. Follow me. Enjoy all the perks that the networks bring. Be safe. Let's live, thrive, add and like.
            

Sum of all Pairs

      Nope, it's not the title of Ben Affleck's movie. It's a whole different genre. I've always wondered why there's always a tryst between two conflicting things or ideas. They always come in pairs. Did you at any moment in your life ever wondered why? I do believe that everything exist in pairs. That if you have something, this something has a total opposite somewhere. One being dependent on the other for validity and integrity. In other words, to maintain their sense of individuality. Yes, it's a bit vague. One in my opinion can't exist without the other but at the same time have an established, exact, and precise territory to set them apart.

      Opposites do attract, as the old saying goes. And that in a sense is true. They do tend to need one another to differentiate and maintain their identity. Totally reliant on each other. Each being a part of the other in a manner of speaking. They coexist giving us choices and evenly testing our judgments and convictions.

      I've been asked one time where the idea of good and bad came from. I really don't know how to answer him. Though it did keep me thinking for a while. Origins of words can be tricky. The idea is a lot easier to grasp. Well then, how did the ideas occur to the people who coined the terms good and bad? Were they coined by the Christians to teach their followers basic Do's and Don'ts? Or was it there even before the time when there was an established religion to follow? A lot of questions that would really drive a person insane. Let's go back to my precedent... everything exist in twos, in pairs. Armed with that in mind, let's go back to my example of good and bad. Would good be known without it's opposite, bad? How can something be considered good when we don't even have the slightest idea what to surmise as bad. It's not like that everything is good until somebody said so. Well, in a way maybe it was like that. But think about it. Good and bad were already in existence. We just don't know yet what to call them and how to distinguish one from the other. Our forefathers may have used so many parameters for trying to come up with a fine line separating the two. They did in such a way that they still correspond to each other. One the exact opposite of the other. Now we do have a fine definition of what's good and bad. Everything not bad is good and the same thing goes the other way around. Good can't exist without bad hot on it's tails. The two though totally different and exactly opposite do compliment each other when it comes to validation and differentiation. We can now compare them for better understanding of what they stand for. Now we can tell what's good because we do have a concrete idea what it is that is considered bad. Though the general idea of good and bad can be both subjective and objective and very highly debatable. So were just gonna focus on the main idea of the terms. They are individual entities, yes, but at the same time one can't exist without the other. Other examples are our ideas of life and death, yin and yang, heaven and hell. Other terms may arise from the two but if you would look closer we always go back to the most basic ones. Take for example, day and night. These two are our basic terms used with regards to presence of light coming from the sun. But now we have dawn, afternoon, twilight based on the intensity of the light during the course of the day. Nowadays, brought about by people being wiser, more intelligent and advanced, they almost have a name for everything. We have become more specific and precise. Nevertheless, however advanced our lives may have become we still have to know the simpler attributes of life. And that's another story.

      Going back to my pairs theme. These two words do intriguingly go hand in hand in making us understand their true meaning and impact in our lives. One is needed to define the other. They create a sense of balance in our lives. Each pair balancing one another. That with the absence of one the whole idea is corrupted thus ruining the balance. Even though being a pair means contradicting ideas. They do support each other to form a whole central idea about facets in our lives. Two entities of confliction forming a general thought. A sum that makes us understand things more clearly. A sum of all that we have and comprises the world of ideas that we know of. Arming us great knowledge for us to be able to coast in life far better.

      A man and a wife forming a family, a whole entity that is a building block forming a bigger group which is the community. A community furthers itself as a nation, nations comprising the world. The sum of a pair gives you a concrete idea, a wholeness that is easier understood. And with all the culmination of these ideas completes a bigger whole. For knowledge leads to understanding. Which is the key to a life well spent. So whether you're ugly or beautiful, fair or dark, tall or short, skinny or fat, always remember that without you, nothing will be complete. You, as well as I, are important in keeping the balance and creating the whole. Each one of us is a part of a bigger whole and without one of us the rest will cease to exist. The next time somebody calls you ugly to your face, just tell them, "You're only beautiful because I happen to be ugly. So shut up and thank your lucky stars. Without ugly people like me I don't think people would even consider you beautiful."

      We should always be mindful that our world, our lives, are lived on an invisible scale which we try to balance. If not, would lead to uncertain failures. We each need one another to keep it on the level and try not to upset or upstage each other. We do need one another to define ourselves as individuals as we walk our lives. We are all a part of a pair that will complete a wholeness that is filled with meaning and clarity.